Motherhood: The job of a lifetime
By Cathy Nevin
So Mother’s Day is close at hand and what might I have
to say about being a mother? I admit that my mother
did tell me there would be "days like these," and yet
there into the realm of motherhood I went. I have an
abundance of stories from so many joyous moments and
occasions, but there too are the moments of sheer
frustration spent pondering the life of a carefree
I’ve come to learn there is no lack of learning
opportunities that come with each stage of mothering.
The infant stage, draining but truly amazing as this
little person suddenly takes notice of your every move
and responds to you with that first wonderful smile
that energizes even the most fatigued of souls.
Toddlers—run run run—the world is so new to them they
can’t decide what to do and for how long to do it, so
you debate an afternoon nap or early bedtime and
wonder if your toddler will join you. With
preschoolers you rediscover the wonders of the world,
when what seems incredibly mundane to you is
incredibly amazing to them. With the school age child
you learn how to allow them to discover independence
and self-assurance, all the while ready to jump in and
help. Every age has its most memorable moments both
for the difficulty and the splendour of it all.
In our household, we’re not far from being a home full
of teenagers, at the ages of 18, 16 and 12 (officially
a preteen!). Yes, the dreaded teenagers! Each of them
like photo paper first entering the developer tray,
knowing generally what the picture is all about but
greatly anticipating just exactly how it will look
once fully developed. These three children are quite
diverse in their personalities and at times that can
certainly lead to conflict, while also more positively providing Dad and Mom with a continuing education of sorts. The fierce heart-pounding beat of a well-developed drummer playing a full set has given us the ability to be more tolerant and has led to a greater appreciation of the coordination skills it takes to play the drums. Our in-house theatre apprentice has re-educated us in the verse of William Shakespeare, while amazing us in his ability to speak it as eloquently as if it were his native tongue. Our youngest, enjoying the world of Equine, fast becomes very knowledgeable in the finer details of horsemanship and tacks her majestic steed with the greatest of ease.
I know as much as I have to teach my children, I have
most assuredly learned from them. While the learning
can be very trying (on both accounts, I’m certain)
given the chance I would not choose to miss any of it.
The greatest and most honourable role I will have in
my lifetime will be the role of Mom.