By Cathy Nevin
August 18th, 2006
On this the day of my (our) 22nd wedding anniversary I have to ponder my own question…Are we there yet? And after all these years look to clarify just where THERE is?
Is it just me or do we always seem to be headed for a destination other than where we are? I’m not talking about a location you could pinpoint on a map, but rather a place in time…that place as parents, people in general we are hoping to get to on the imagined map of our lives.
Do we ever really arrive and how do we know if we have? With or without the added adventure of raising children anyone may keep a mindful sense of whether or not we are travelling along a well groomed highway with a specific direction or we are taking numerous little sidetrips on the not so obvious backroads meandering their way along.
We ask ourselves if we are there yet or not while growing up..teen to adult, getting our drivers license, meeting someone we perceive as a prospective life partner, a new job, a new home, etc.! Finding yourself “content” seems like the ultimate goal but do we ever become content, or will we always be looking for that “place”. If you have children it’s easy to look ahead and wonder when you’ll get there…when will they talk, walk, etc.!
That’s when you want to be careful to stop wishing for the next step and embrace what’s happening right now…and you probably won’t learn it until much later. My Mom used to tell me how fast time goes by and don’t wish your life away…and enjoy the kids while they are little, because in a blink that time is gone!!! Of course I never believed her…well, until now! Those very things have happened…my kids are nearly grown, time did fly and well…is this all sounding familiar?
The key in life whether you are married, have children, are in a relationship, or single and cruising along with your life plans…enjoy the trip…embrace the adventure and just take it all in.
Life isn’t about “getting there” …that place, that thing we are always after, our final destination...it’s about the adventure along the way and knowing enough to appreciate the journey! The bumpy roads, the not so perfect perfect plans, etc….just have fun on the highway of life…there are sure to be some potholes but taking everything into account, it’s sure to be a hell of a ride!